If you have been following this post, you have taken some of your big hairy audacious goals and turned them into small steps. You’ve looked at the intention to your goals and found the higher purpose you are seeking. You have given yourself permission to change the measurement of your goal if you reach your higher purpose before you reach your measured goal.
Having navigated the first 2 secrets for making new years resolutions easy, you are ready for secret three. Learn to be receptive. Likely you’ve never had lessons on being receptive, so it will require some practice to become accomplished.
Have you ever received a compliment that you immediately discarded? Something like, “I really appreciate your helping me during my sister’s illness?” and your response is “Oh, its nothing, anyone would have done that.” In other words, you aren’t open to receiving the appreciation. You are a like a closed window that won’t let in the cool breeze.
Learning to receive a compliment is the same as learning to be receptive to anything, you feel it. By allowing yourself to feel the compliment in yourself, your response will naturally be one of gratitude. It isn’t possible to discard a compliment you have felt. When you feel it, you take it in. Your response will naturally become, “You are most welcome.”
Let’s walk through how you might apply the 3 of the secrets to a very common financial resolution, saving money.
Start by taking your savings goal, whether it is $100,000, $25,000 or $1,000 and set a small step goal you can reach easily in the next 30 to 60 days. Say $100 in 60 days. If you take the full 60 days to reach your goal, you win. If you get their even sooner, you will feel even better about yourself. You win. Remember you are setting yourself up for success, so make your small step a goal you can easily achieve.
Make the necessary changes to achieve your small step. Examples include:
- Set up an auto transfer from checking to savings after each payroll
- Change your payroll withholding to have your savings goal taken directly from your paycheck into your savings account
- Make an appointment with yourself on your calendar to transfer your small step savings goal on a certain day and time
Look at the intention of your goal. What is the intention that is driving your savings goal? Consider journaling to help you discover your intention. Possibilities include:
- To have a cushion
- To reduce the financial stress in your life
- To have the confidence that comes from having money in the bank
Once you have found your intention, state it in the present tense in a positive affirmation. Here are some examples: I am financially confident. I am free of worry. I am a joyous saver. Write down your affirmation and put it in a place you can see it several times daily such as your bathroom mirror.
Several times a day, close your eyes and be with the feeling of financial confidence. Keep appreciating it and anchoring it in your body. Be fully present to how great it feels to be financially confident. Notice how your feelings of financial confidence are “leaking over” into every day moments.
When you reach your goal, celebrate appropriately. If your goal is saving money, find a way to celebrate that doesn’t blow your budget. There are many ways to celebrate that don’t cost anything or very little. Here are some examples: Take a walk in the park. Have a cup of coffee or a beer with your best friend. Set aside 30 minutes to do something you love to do but rarely have time for, like a trip to the library or a bike ride. As you engage in your celebratory activity, be present to how good you feel about reaching your small step goal.
Set a new small step goal. If reaching the first one was easy, consider stretching a bit further this time. Be kind to yourself and enjoy the fruits of achievement made easy.